Food and sex: both can be integral parts of entertaining activities. They can be enjoyed alone, with a partner or with a group. They can be sources of adventure and new experiences. But people may not know that sex and food can be combined to create a fun and exciting experience for all parties involved.
This combination of sex and food goes further than the odd spray of whipped cream or drizzle of chocolate sauce. However, with any new activity, there are do’s and don’ts. Some foods, places to put foods and ways to use them are better than others. I spoke with two members of the The Next Generation club, or TNG, which is a kink/BDSM club that aims to create a sex-positive and shame-free environment around sexuality, to discuss the best ways to incorporate food into your sex life.
Bri Colon, a junior marine biology major, and Tyger Salters, a junior chemistry major, are president and treasurer of TNG respectively. Both agreed on one major point when it comes to incorporating food and sex: location, location, location.
“Keep food of any sort, especially sugary or acidic, away from vaginas,” Salters warned. Similarly, Colon advised, “The only caution I would [give] is to not insert any foods due to the fickle nature of the vagina/urethra.” Placing foods near or in the vagina or urethra can lead to an increased risk of infection; it can also lead to a not-fun-or-sexy burning sensation.
Also, be careful when putting food on objects. “If there was something sugary on, say, a penetrative object [toys or body parts], you better wash it off before it goes inside anyone,” Salters said.
“If you want to start, I suggest starting easily with dessert foods such as apples, bananas, whipped cream, and caramel sauces,” Colon suggested for novices. Salters also mentioned vegetables, but they (Tyger’s pronoun) cautioned two important things. “Please roll a condom on it, and don’t put it in your butt,” they warned.
Condoms cover the food and keep the surface separated from your skin, keeping the area clean — even if you’ve washed the food off before use. The second piece of advice is probably the most vital. Putting things inside your rear end is a good way for them to break and/or get lost. Neither of these scenarios are ideal for a sexy night in.
Colon raised another aspect of combining food and sensuality. She mentioned restaurants where you can eat food off willing (paid) volunteers. One of the most common fares these restaurants serve is sushi. This practice is actually a Japanese art known as nyotaimori, which literally means “adorned woman.” Restaurants serving clientele such as one in Miami’s Catalina Hotel and Beach Club (where it will cost you $500 for 6 feet of sushi) or the Nyotaimori Experience from the SOYO Sushi Catering company, based in NYC, are just some of the venues that offer this entertaining and delicious combination of food and sensuality. If you think this might sound unsanitary, don’t fret – food is never placed directly on the body. A leaf or a serving platter is always placed between skin and any edible items.
Before incorporating food into your sex life, Colon recommends testing the food beforehand. “I would suggest you try it out on yourself first by putting food on your own body before you allow anyone to put food on yours. Just so that you can know where your erogenous zones are and where the zones you don’t feel comfortable are.”
Colon and Salters agree on what the main use for food should be, in their opinions: foreplay. “I usually recommend food as a part of foreplay, as a sensual experience. This can mean eating or nibbling things off of your partner or feeding them as you give them a massage,” Salters said. Colon agreed and added to this list. “I think a common misconception is that food play is inherently sexual, when it doesn’t have to involve sex at all. It’s primarily a form of foreplay and demands a high level of trust.”
All in all, combining food and sex can be a fun way to add some spice to your life. As long as you communicate with and listen to your partner(s) about what you and they want, like and don’t like, the experience should be a rewarding one. So, whether you have never thought of combining food with your sex life before this article, or you’re an old pro, I’ll leave you with some advice from Salters. “Just be creative! There’s plenty of room for making it a unique experience, as long as you do it with safety in mind. Also, be okay with making a mess, depending on what you play with; it can be inevitable.”
In summary: Be safe, be adventurous and put some towels down. Bon Appetit!